In my last newsletter I was talking about setting yourself small achievable steps rather than great big goals that your are sure to fail. This is so important on many levels, it is very detrimental to your self-esteem if you are constantly setting yourself up to fail rather than succeed! In my job I meet a lot of people who say they have low self-esteem, but, what exactly is self-esteem? We often look at self-esteem as an external factor, if people have made nasty remarks towards us, criticised us, made us feel small, we usually blame others for our lack of self-esteem. But can others really ‘make’ you feel bad or is it really coming from yourself?
If you think of self-esteem as purely ‘the promises you make to yourself,’ then actually your self-esteem is very much in your hands and no one else’s. If you think of every time you make a promise to yourself like “I’m going to lose a stone in 3 months or even I’m not going to eat that chocolate & then you break that promise, you don’t lose the weight or you go ahead and eat that chocolate, then you are actually lying to yourself and deep down you stat to lose trust and belief in yourself, just as you would if another person lied to you, this is what causes you to have low self-esteem. Now, if you think about every time you have broken a promise to yourself no matter how small, you are programming your brain not to believe in you, all these little promises add up to a big deficit! There may also be many times when you have kept those promises and done what you said you were going to, these also add up as a credit and your self-esteem rises. So, it makes sense not to let yourself down, not to break those promises that is why small achievable steps are the way forward! If your self-esteem is low, set yourself small promises and make sure you achieve them, prove to yourself that you do what you say and feel your self-esteem rise! Success in life really means achieving happiness, for you to be truly happy your self-esteem needs to be high!
Remember life success hinges on your self-esteem, so build it regularly by keeping those promises that you make to yourself, one small achievable step at a time 🙂